Attending Your First ClubFEM Party: What To Expect

It may feel intimidating to attend a ClubFEM party for the first time regardless of which side of the slash you stand on, especially if you are attending alone. To help relax your nerves, we’ve put together a comprehensive look at what you can expect when attending a ClubFEM party for the first time. We think you will find our parties are unique and enjoyable experiences for everyone who attends. 

Before The Party Begins

Each month, our parties have a designated theme to inspire everyone, whether it is “Back-To-School” with a focus on education, or a fun Halloween party where everyone gets to dress up. This is noted on our website, and on the event listing on FetLife. Parties are paid for in advance, and you may do so at any of our Meet and Greet events leading up to the party. The gentlemen are expected to bring a food item to the event, and often they tie their choice to the event’s theme. 

Party Day

The day of the party, submissive males arrive early to the event to participate in a pre-party meeting, where the evening’s service tasks will be assigned and details gone over to ensure a smooth evening for everyone attending. Upon entry to the event venue, male submissives will put on a collar, and be provided with either a red ribbon if interested in play, or a black ribbon if they are not interested in play that evening. Male submissives wearing a red ribbon are under no obligation to play that evening, it merely means they are open to the possibility. Our Headmistress E is the Hostess for each event, guiding our schedule and conversation throughout the evening. She is always available to answer questions in advance or during the party if anyone is unsure of what should be expected during a ClubFEM event. 

The Environment: What To Expect

Our ClubFEM Tulsa events are a welcoming environment, respectful of both Female Dominants and male submissives who attend. There are people from all walks of life with varying levels of experience in the lifestyle, from absolute beginners to those with years of experience. We believe everyone offers a unique perspective on the lifestyle. The people who attend ClubFEM Tulsa parties are open-minded, friendly, and easy to converse with. We offer events that provide a degree of protocol while remaining relaxed and enjoyable for everyone attending.

For The Female Dominants

Ladies, you are the star of the show at ClubFEM Tulsa. You can expect to be served by male submissives at all times, from the start of the party until the end of the party. Female Dominants are not required to bring food to any ClubFEM event – the gentlemen will handle that. Female Dominants are welcome to bring play bags for possible play during ClubFEM events where play can take place. Leave your bag in the car, and a male submissive will bring it inside for you. This includes being offered food and beverages, being cleaned up after, having your bags brought inside, and play (if negotiated by you and a submissive). Female Dominants are under no obligation to do any type of play if it is not desired, but many of our events have play time on the schedule if interested.

For The Male Submissives

Male submissives should expect to be in service to Female Dominants for the entire duration of the party. This includes offering beverages and food to the ladies, bringing in play bags from the ladies’ cars, play (if negotiated between a Dominant and a submissive), and cleaning. Service to Female Dominants is at the forefront of what we do in ClubFEM. All male submissives are expected to “dress down” at a designated time during the event. This means wearing your collar and choice of being nude or wearing a thong, women’s panties or jockstrap. This is part of the ClubFEM experience. We understand male submissives may be nervous to dress down at their first event, but rest assured we are a body positive group that welcomes all bodies as good bodies.

Getting The Most Out Of Your Experience

At ClubFEM, we want everyone to have a positive experience celebrating Female Dominance and male submission. Our goal is to foster an environment that is open, welcoming and enjoyable for all. To get the most out of your ClubFEM Tulsa experience, we suggest joining us for our regular Meet and Greet events in addition to attending our monthly parties. The Meet and Greet events are a great way to meet like-minded people within the group, enjoy kinky company and discuss the lifestyle openly. We also encourage you to join our GroupMe chats where people ask questions, open up discussions, and enjoy conversing with one another between events. When attending events, come in with an open mind and curiosity so you can enjoy learning from others about their perspectives on Female Dominance and male submission.